In this moment I’m making a choice to sit at my desk and write an article. It would be easier for me to go through my collection of unanswered emails and it would be beautiful to go for a walk along the beach. There are several other things I’d like to do and one or two I’d love to get on with.
It’s usually like this for me. I’m no good at multitasking and there are many different things I want to get done, but I have to make a choice.
There’s another choice I’m making at the same time. I could be agitated about the unanswered emails and sad that I don’t have time to go for a walk now. I could easily flit from one task to another, unable to make up my mind what to focus on first.
I’ve learnt through experience, however, that it’s very uncomfortable and unfulfilling to be so all over the place. I feel better when I make a choice what to do and do it as well as I can. It gives me peace.
A few hours ago I hosted a discussion session around the question, “What do you believe is the most responsible action you can take over the next 3 months to contribute to the evolution of human society?” I noticed that there’s a voice in me that whispers in my ear a lot. It says things like, “You need to make more impact, Sarah.” “You should sell more courses, get more clients and be more successful.” “It’s urgent, Sarah. You must do more to help. You’re not doing enough.” It’s a voice that can easily drive my action, but it’s a very tricky one, because however much I do, it keeps repeating the same sentences. Nothing is ever enough for that voice and it appears to be completely blind to everything I’m already doing.
There’s another part of me that’s gradually becoming stronger than my not-enough-voice. It doesn’t talk much. It’s more of a mover than a doer. It moves into action and it’s very grounded. It likes to get significant things done in a way that feels fulfilling. It prefers to be powerful in a relaxed way, as if it’s able to play with time. It feels like the real me, even though I acknowledge that the not-enough-voice is also part of me – probably a part that I’ve ignored and suppressed for too long.
To me, what I do now is my most significant choice. Now is where I can be creative. Now is when I make a difference to my future.
I spent many years of my life working hard now so I could create something better for later. The problem was that later never came. I just continued working hard, always expecting the reward will come. Gradually it dawned on me that how I am now is directly setting up my future. If I’m waiting for something good to happen in my life, I will experience a future of waiting. If I’m happy now, I’m shaping a happy future.
This sounds so easy to say in words, but it’s a lot more difficult to put it into practice, because my mind doesn’t really get it. It’s a bit too simple for the clever part of me who wants to feel important and special. It can be almost embarrassing to admit that I could relax now and everything will work out much better and more easily than if I get all intelligent and serious about things.
But time and time again, if I have the courage to be moved into simple, direct action in the present moment that’s aligned with what I love about life, things work out better.
When I’m in a heated discussion about a business decision I can fight my corner or remember that I enjoy a conscious conversation. Then I need to calm down, connect with wisdom and respond more gracefully.
When I’m disappointed because something didn’t work out the way I wanted, I can spend my time processing the disappointment or I can appreciate the many good things that are already happening.
The thing is that there’s a reason for writing about the choices we make in this moment. There’s a book called Our Moment of Choice. It’s a brilliant title that calls each of us into the present and asks what are you choosing? But what I find fascinating is that it’s full of simple, human wisdom that is directly applicable in our daily life.
It’s written by 43 revolutionary leaders, including many familiar names: Gregg Braden, Deepak Chopra, Lynn McTaggart, Jean Houston. They’re extremely clever people. I’ve met some of them and I’ve seen their brilliance. But they’re also very human, and in this book many of them share a more intimate, personal perspective on how to face the biggest challenges on the planet and make your own unique contribution.
There’s an opening now, as the COVID-19 effects dig deep, for radical change. Many people have lost so much (money, business, freedom, peace of mind) that they’re willing to risk asking new questions and embracing new directions.
It‘s the right time to take responsibility for our choices and the only time that works is now.
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